Four stories that explore the question, “What does it mean to be a man?”
Christine Emba’s article was thought provoking but scrambled for lack of any real toehold on her subject, near the end. As a black woman, she has to be more circumspect than I do as a white woman; society at large, black AND white, seems to require women of color to support their men more rigorously. This bothers me--why are black women always the most put upon, about everything?? Why is it on her more than on, say, another man, to support a better way for men to be men? But I feel her--hesitation, for want of a better word--stems instinctively from this. I come away from this article wanting more to support the lives of women of color than of men in general. Is that strange?
Father Boyle’s call for “extravagant tenderness” really resonates, especially when neighbors treat each other as strangers and are so locked in fear they shoot without speaking, when someone merely turns a car around in their driveway. Can we rebuild civility by practicing extravagant tenderness? I learned Latin by rote memory and think the answer is YES.
Mark!!!! Happy Happiest of Birthdays! I just saw the Barbie movie this week and this issue feels immensely connected and poignant! Thank you as always for sharing your gift of being the best reader ever with all of us!
First off Happy Belated Birthday. Next, great issues as always.
Happy belated birthday Mark!!